PARENTAL CONFLICTS AND ITS EFFECTS ON CHILDREN.

Good quality parenting provides structure, warmth and emotional support to the kids. They should also feel able to talk openly about their lives to any of their parents and also feel safe when expressing their feelings regardless of which parent they are with. 

However, if the parents have frequent and intense conficts, it affects the children negatively. These conflicts have a negative impact on children's sense of safety and security which affects their relationships with parents and others. 

  Let me highlight some of the many causes of this conflicts.. Money;which is common in many families, family business, Divorced parents;this mainly affects many children worldwide. When parents are divorced they tend to conflict indirectly by:

Asking children to carry hostile messages to the other parent. 

Asking children intrusive questions about their parent. 

Creating a need for the children to hide positive feelings for the other parent. 

Putting down the other parent in the presence of the children. 

Conflicting parents use children to express their anger and hostility. This children sometimes are forced to choose between either of the parent and side with them when the pressure is too much. However this conflicts have both long term and 

short term effects on the children. 

Effects of parental conflicts on children

Emotional and behaviour problems. 

Anxiety. 

Depression. 

Low self-esteem. 

School problems. 

Sleep problems. 

This children however grow up having poorer relationships, adjustment problems and some even have a negative perception of marriage since they fear marriage never works. 

As parents, we should try as much to make sure that we hide our conflicts from the children and shower them with the love and care they need. Its always about them.